Fair-weather friends...
I cannot figure out why I give a darn when someone I don't personally like, even tho I have attempted to create a friendship,and do a lot for, expresses to someone else that they don't like me. But it bugs the tar out of me. I guess what I find annoying is when I do so so so much for a person, and they still act like stupid ignoramouses, biting the hands that befriend them.
The thing that is bugging me this week is that a person I've dealt with for almost 3 years, who has an enormous chip on her shoulder, a ton of childhood baggage, and who does NOT discipline her children, loves to point her fingure at people she THINKS could be child molesters, or child abusers. This, from a woman who rarely can find the "little darlings" at any given time. She has gone to our bishop and reported several people she felt were "Abusers", as though she needed to enlighten him. Not based on any facts mind you, nor based on an incident that happend. Just a "Feeling" she has. Now, I'm totally with the concept that you can tell someone is just not "Right" but I NEVER accuse someone of something until I know facts. I simply observe with a more distinct eye... more critical and more specific. I watch for any inappropriate behavior etc. Anyway---I was speaking with a mutual acquaintance and the person asked how the "abuser-accuser" and I were getting along. I told her that the "abuser-accuser" probably was upset because I hold her children to the same standards that I expect of every child, especially MINE. She proceeded to tell me that the person expressed more than "not like" about me. Maybe I'm too ultra sensitive. It doesn't really matter to me if this person likes me...but it would be a nice thing, since I've done so much for them. It isn't going to make a difference in the long run---she moves in 2 months. But it makes me angry, and makes me want to shut myself off from the world even more....just so I don't have to befriend people. It's not worth all the agony.
The thing that is bugging me this week is that a person I've dealt with for almost 3 years, who has an enormous chip on her shoulder, a ton of childhood baggage, and who does NOT discipline her children, loves to point her fingure at people she THINKS could be child molesters, or child abusers. This, from a woman who rarely can find the "little darlings" at any given time. She has gone to our bishop and reported several people she felt were "Abusers", as though she needed to enlighten him. Not based on any facts mind you, nor based on an incident that happend. Just a "Feeling" she has. Now, I'm totally with the concept that you can tell someone is just not "Right" but I NEVER accuse someone of something until I know facts. I simply observe with a more distinct eye... more critical and more specific. I watch for any inappropriate behavior etc. Anyway---I was speaking with a mutual acquaintance and the person asked how the "abuser-accuser" and I were getting along. I told her that the "abuser-accuser" probably was upset because I hold her children to the same standards that I expect of every child, especially MINE. She proceeded to tell me that the person expressed more than "not like" about me. Maybe I'm too ultra sensitive. It doesn't really matter to me if this person likes me...but it would be a nice thing, since I've done so much for them. It isn't going to make a difference in the long run---she moves in 2 months. But it makes me angry, and makes me want to shut myself off from the world even more....just so I don't have to befriend people. It's not worth all the agony.
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