How's that workin' for ya?
I love Dr. Phil. He can say whatever he wants... and will tell people to their face when he thinks they are being ridiculous. He does it so smartly, tho, that generally people don't realize he's pointing out how ridiculous they are. AND he gets paid to do it! I rarely get a chance to watch him--as he comes on here during school for us. I'm too lazy to remember to tape his show... I don't know why... I just don't think of it. I watched his show on Friday (we were off because A had 4 day weekend for Columbus Day)-- and the subject was a debate about whether or not it's ok to tell other people's children what to do. I'm torn on this subject. Above all, I don't think people who have never had children should ever get to tell other people's kids what to do, unless they are directly in charge of them.
Before I had kids...I had these wonderful ideas about raising my children better than my parents did. Those who don't have their OWN kids have NO CLUE how hard it is to always do what you think you will! I surely didn't! A lady on the show Friday said that she had been asked to not bring all of her kids at once to church. The preacher said to bring one at a time, so they can learn the appropriate behavior. Her response?! "Why should I have to go through all of that, just because my kids don't always behave?" ok..um... First, I'd be MORTIFIED if a preacher singled me out like that--- ... and .. um... Second...why should we all have to listen to your horrible kids just because you don't want to be inconvenienced?! I'm the kind of parent that can't stand for my kids to make a scene, so when we're out... they aren't allowed to touch, run, scream, push the cart all over the store, go where I'm not and so forth. I don't buy treats everytime we go to the store. I don't let them pick out a toy everytime, and I make them buy their own extra's. I'm really picky. A lot of my friends think I'm too controlling. I personally don't care what they think. You won't see my child throw a fit in the store. I'm not saying my kids are perfect....because it's obvious they aren't... but they're in training. So if my child doesn't behave---then we leave. It's not convenient, but worth it in the end. I'd much rather see a child misbehave, while a parent is training them, and correcting them...then to watch a child misbehave and the parent just ignore what is going on...saying "what can I do?" Now, when it comes to correcting my child: I don't mind if a person talks to my child ... but it all depends on how. Really--I'd prefer if you spoke to me when my child has done something wrong. But if you feel you must, then get to the point. Don't lecture them. Don't take it upon yourself to point out every aspect of every section of what the child did wrong. Get to the point. And don't even think about coming to me and lecturing me about MY children, when you can't even control your own. Pretty tough subject...and pretty touchy for most people.
Before I had kids...I had these wonderful ideas about raising my children better than my parents did. Those who don't have their OWN kids have NO CLUE how hard it is to always do what you think you will! I surely didn't! A lady on the show Friday said that she had been asked to not bring all of her kids at once to church. The preacher said to bring one at a time, so they can learn the appropriate behavior. Her response?! "Why should I have to go through all of that, just because my kids don't always behave?" ok..um... First, I'd be MORTIFIED if a preacher singled me out like that--- ... and .. um... Second...why should we all have to listen to your horrible kids just because you don't want to be inconvenienced?! I'm the kind of parent that can't stand for my kids to make a scene, so when we're out... they aren't allowed to touch, run, scream, push the cart all over the store, go where I'm not and so forth. I don't buy treats everytime we go to the store. I don't let them pick out a toy everytime, and I make them buy their own extra's. I'm really picky. A lot of my friends think I'm too controlling. I personally don't care what they think. You won't see my child throw a fit in the store. I'm not saying my kids are perfect....because it's obvious they aren't... but they're in training. So if my child doesn't behave---then we leave. It's not convenient, but worth it in the end. I'd much rather see a child misbehave, while a parent is training them, and correcting them...then to watch a child misbehave and the parent just ignore what is going on...saying "what can I do?" Now, when it comes to correcting my child: I don't mind if a person talks to my child ... but it all depends on how. Really--I'd prefer if you spoke to me when my child has done something wrong. But if you feel you must, then get to the point. Don't lecture them. Don't take it upon yourself to point out every aspect of every section of what the child did wrong. Get to the point. And don't even think about coming to me and lecturing me about MY children, when you can't even control your own. Pretty tough subject...and pretty touchy for most people.
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